Every parent has a different way of parenting their children. There is no right or wrong way; however, many parents find that they have to tailor their parenting styles depending how their children respond to our guidance. Every child learns differently, so what may work for one family or child might not work for another. As a parent with multiple children, you may find yourself frazzled and stressed out because what is working for one child isn’t working on another.
Disclosure: The opinions reflected in this post are my own and may differ from your own.
Behavior Issues Usually Have an Underlying Problem
As a parent we often have to find out the root cause of a child’s behavior issue, in order to figure out how to correct the unpleasant behavior. Figuring out the root cause will take time and patience. Start by talking to your child and ask them if they are having issues at school, daycare, with friends, ect. Sometimes children will act out at home if they are being bullied or picked on at school. While other children simply act out for attention.
Talk With Your Child
It is important to sit down and talk to your child without any other distractions if possible. Some kids will open up freely and discuss their problems, while others tend to stuff their problems deep down and won’t say a word. If your child won’t talk to you about their problems, try to remain calm and continue to try to get them to open up. It may take time to get them to open up and talk to you about their issues.
What to Do If Your Child Won’t Open Up
Dealing with a stubborn child can be very frustrating and time consuming. However, it is important to try to get your child to talk. Leaving this issue unresolved can create further problems in the future and their behaviors won’t change. Children like to talk about things going on in their life, so try some of these tips to try and get your child to open up and talk:
- Have them help you with a special project or cook
- Go on a one on one date night with your child
- Go for a car ride
- Play a game
- Talk to them about their day
When To Seek Professional Help
Don’t feel like a failure as a parent, if you have to seek the help of professional to help solve your child’s behavioral issues. Sometimes your child will open up and talk to someone who is objective and isn’t going to give their a hard time or punish them for their feelings. If you take your child to see a counselor or social worker, don’t pressure your child to discuss what they talked about. Allow them to start the discussion with you when he or she is ready to discuss it with you.
How do you get your child to open up and talk?