Dad’s Need to Create a Deep Connection as Well
Dad’s often times feel left out because they don’t feel the same connection that a mother feels to her baby while in the womb. A dad can feel the baby moving in mom’s belly and can talk to the baby but they don’t have a 24/7 connection to the baby. If the mother decides to breastfeed the baby, dad may feel left out in the bonding process because he is unable to feed the baby. However, there are other ways that dad can bond with the baby and create that deep connection. For example:
- hold the baby while mom takes a break
- bring the baby to mom for those middle of the night feedings
- change a few diapers
- give the baby a bath
- play with the baby
- create a night time ritual
Meeting Your Child’s Needs Quickly Builds Trust
When your baby cries, it is important to respond quickly to their cries. A quick response lets your baby know that you are there and that you can be trusted. Trust is important to a child emotional well-being and helps develop a sense of security. This is beneficial as they begin to grow up, they already know that you can be trusted to meet their needs and nurture them in a loving manner.
Baby Led Weaning
If your baby is breastfed, allow them to make the decision to stop breastfeeding. Older babies often times view nursing as a source of comfort and trust, rather than nursing for nutritional purposes. I know some parents are objected to this method, if that is the case, then you can find another way to meet your child’s emotional needs and maintain the sense of trust that is achieved while nursing.
Sears, M.D. William & Sears, R.N, Martha (1995). The Discipline Book: Everything You Need to Know to Have a Better-Behaved Child – From Birth to Age 10. Canada: Little, Brown & Company.
Did you start teaching your baby right and wrong from the beginning?