Problem: Death In The Family
While it is a terrible situation, it is inevitable and something you will have to explain at some point. No one wants to address this sad issue, but it’s better to find positives in the situation.
Solution: Loss is difficult to explain, especially to younger children who may not have experienced it yet. Allow the situation to bring your family closer together and ignite relationships with extended family you may have grown apart from. Encourage your family to spread love to anyone they care about and offer plenty of hugs to anyone who needs one.
Problem: Cross Country Move
No one wants to pull their children away from a familiar environment or group of friends but sometimes situations will force your family to make a tough decision. Children of all ages may act out in response and generally add stress and struggle to an already difficult time for your family.
Moving is not easy but you can involve your children in the moving process.
Solution: Some of the children, particularly if they are older, can be encouraged to communicate with peers. Email, social media, and traditional letters can be used to share messages and pictures with loved ones left behind. You may even encourage them to set up a kidsafe blog that will allow them to share their feelings along their journey. Children of all ages can use the experience to learn about their new destination. Create activities and go on family adventures that explore what the new area has to offer.
Every situation in your life can be used as a learning lesson to bring your family closer together. Rather than dwelling on the negative elements of a situation, look for ways to see the positive and move forward. It’s up to you to teach your children to focus on the positive and grow from the experience.
How do you cope with a bad situation?
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I’ve definitely learned that it’s important to find the good in a bad situation. Especially after the awful past year I had…
Yeah, we have gone through our ups and downs the last several years too.
I have become the queen of finding the positive because it’s a way to survive and find joy. You are right about it all, but what most resonates is the job loss. My husband went through that and it was just a few months after of our marriage when I was so sick after becoming pregnant. It was really helpful having him around.
Your story sounds familiar. I lost my job right after I got married too. Then my husband lost his job when I was pregnant. Everything worked out.
It is really hard to be positive all times, but a friend who can show us the good in the bad situation is the best. I am glad, I have a few friends who always cherish me in the ugliest moments, showing me something positive in it!!
I agree sometimes an outside person can help you see the good in the situation. Thank you for visiting.
We experienced a job loss earlier this year and it was hard on us for many reasons, especially since it was so unexpected. My husband was torn up about it because he was moving up and was there for six years. We’ve have bad days but there’s been a lot of positive from it, too. He was able to spend more time with us while looking for another job and it opened up his mind to make more of an effort to pursue careers he is more passionate about. At the same time, I threw myself into blogging and exploring my career interests. I have been blessed with an increase in opportunities that have come from my blog expansion. I’m more motivated to actively follow my goals now, too from that loss. It really is finding more positives from the negative in tough situations like that!
Yes, job losses are the worst but sometimes they open doors we never dreamed were possible. Thank you for sharing your story.
Finding good in a bad is a bit hard task for me. But my husband is very good in it, as he stays very practical in his day to day life. I too accept that being emotional won’t help you every time.
Yes, I am a bit more emotional too but I think it is because I want security when it comes to running a household. However, I have had doors open when I was laid off that I never dreamed was possible. So you never know what can happen from something that you feel it totally negative.
I was the oldest sibling in my family growing up and I think that helps me now as a mom. I was use to taking care of my brother and sister and explaining things to them. I was use to being the strong one in a bad situation. I think the best thing to remember is as upset as you someone else is looking to you for answer. Our kids are watching us and seeing how we handle things and one day its going to mold them into the person they are.
I was the oldest in my family too. I saw my parents go through the ups and downs of life. Thankfully, I was level headed and was able to pick myself up each time after being in a stressful or bad situation that didn’t go the way that I wanted it too.