When a Child ”Runs” the Game
Sometimes kids run the course of the game and they take the leadership in the game just like little tyrants. The majority of parents allow this behavior thinking that the point of the game is to make the child happy at all costs. This is the common reason why fun disappears at the beginning of the game and of course the game becomes boring really fast. The parent is to blame for this because not one living creature should be a ”toy” for another playmate.
Another mistake is the fact that a lot of parents wants to be at the service of their child and do whatever the child asks of them. Whether the service requires feeding, bringing water or unnecessarily ego pumping by letting him win every time. Children should never be absolute chiefs because this can only spoil them and make your relationship a lot worse. Every time we allow our children to be the boss of the game we make them indifferent to our needs and desires and destroy all social values of the game.
When a Parent Runs the Game
The problem may also be the quite opposite situation when the game is dominated by the parent. This situation is common with fathers. This usually occurs in situations when the parent is very good at a certain game and when he gets carried away and does everything by himself. The child usually ends up becoming an observer of the game or maybe a ”young apprentice” if its lucky. The often encounters when making castles in the sand or when playing with Lego blocks. A good example of a parent getting carried away is when he decides to build a wooden car in the workshop. The parent usually forgets that he asked his child to make the car together. The child was expecting a fun new experience where he can learn new skills but instead he ends up being an observer and the fun doesn’t last long. In addition, this can also make your child feel incapable in the future.
There are a lot of productive things that you can play with your child like word games, memory games, cards, drawing games, sculpturing games, etc… If you want more physical activities you should try hide and seek, football, frisbee games, flying a kite, badminton, marble games in the backyard, jumping on the trampoline, etc… It is also not a bad idea to rent a jumping castle.
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What is you and your child’s favorite activity or game to play outside?