If there is one thing that Holly Easterby can’t stop talking about, these would be about kids and families. She channels this passion by writing content for Bonza Brats and in blogs such as this one. In here, she will be discussing one of the problems that parents would rather not deal with- kids talking back.
There he or she goes again. Squeaking louder than wet brakes! Yep, it’s definitely not the car this time but the toddler that’s inside it. I am a self-professed kid lover. But just like any parent, I too am human. When a kid is lashing back, I would dare not be caught up in that kind of situation if given the choice. Having a kid is considered a gift but no doubt, there are those who have it worse than others. These are the parents who have kids talking back to them and these show no sign of respect for parental authority. Is there any way to prevent this?
Disclosure: This post is for informational purposes. If your child is constantly talking back, you may need to seek help from a licensed counselor, doctor, or health professional.
How to Prevent Children from Answering Back
Children answering back is a horror story that can be tamed although this will require a lot of work and maybe, some patience than we can possibly master. Here are some practical solutions that might help.
Start it young. Now parents, it can be tempting to give in to every whimsical request of children. But before you fall into that trap, remember the repercussions. When kids are used to getting their way, the moment you refuse one request, they may not be able to process this and the talking back starts. As young as they are, you should learn to say no when you find that what they are asking for are unreasonable.
Keep Your Cool
When in a public place, it can be difficult not to ignore your kids when this is screaming in anger and making a scene. If I were in these shoes, of course I would be very aware that everybody’s eyes are pointed at us. But many make the mistake of responding to children in the same manner. Now, talking back from parents is even worse than that coming from a kid. If you can’t be a good example, who are they supposed to imitate? The rock star on TV?
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3 responses to “Kids Talking Back: Brattitude or Discipline Issues?”
I like the change places idea. Kids often do not understand what it is like. Very clever.
I remember a conversation with my own mother. She asked me what I would do to my own kids one day if they did what I did. I told her I wouldn’t spank them, as an adult, she made me eat my one words. Parenting is hard but I think kids don’t understand the bigger picture and don’t know that we are doing it out of love.
Although I have no children that doesn’t mean I haven’t had to deal with my friends kids (a couple actually lived with me for a while). Now I have been accused and laughed at on occasion but when one of those children would “start up” I would try to reason with them–until I finally would just say-BECA– USE I SAID SO. Actually most of those kids learned the skill of negotiation quite early in life without screaming much to their parents distress!