It is Important that I Teach My Own Children To Have Self Respect For Their Bodies
If my child even remotely decides to wear anything that I think it too revealing outside of our home, I immediately send them back inside to change their clothes. I want to teach my kids self-respect and self-love. According psychology today, self-love is an action and not a feeling. In order to truly love ourselves, we have to be mindful of the things that we say and do in front of our children. Most children model will model their parents actions and values. In fact, children who have low self esteem are more likely to be depressed, get caught up in the wrong crowd, abuse drugs or alcohol, drop out of school, or even commit suicide.
Parents Need to Be a Parent to Their Child and Not A Friend
My job is to be the parent of my children and not be their friend. I will tell my kids when they mess up, when they do something that I think that they shouldn’t be doing, or do something that goes against the values that I have instilled in them. I will correct the behavior and do what it takes to get to the root of the problem. As a parent, you should always encourage an open door policy so that your child can come talk to you whenever they need too, even if the time isn’t right for you. An open, honest relationship will encourage your child to open up to you and to come to you every time there is a problem.
Don’t Neglect Your Relationship With Your Child
I can’t stress enough about how important it is to be involved in your child’s life no matter how busy you are. Your child looks up to you for advice, guidance, encouragement, and love. If you aren’t there for them when they need you, they will find someone or something else to fulfill their needs or get the attention they are seeking just like Miley Cyrus did on national television.
Teaching Children About God’s Love and Values
In my home, we raise our children with Christian values. I want my children to understand that God created them just the way they are. In fact, they should love themselves the way God loves them. The media does a great job trying to sway our kids away from the Christian values. Instead, the media wants to teach them that in order to be popular that they must look or act a certain way in order to be accepted and loved. This goes again what God says in Romans 12:2.
Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is—his good, pleasing and perfect will.
Parents Need to Teach Their Child About Gods Perspective on Sex
Children today are exposed to a large amount of sexual content, similar to what you saw during Miley Cyrus’s performance on the VMAs. As a parent, it is your responsibility to teach them how to honor their body. Communicate with your child and explain to them that God designed sex for marriage. It is important that you talk to your child about sex. You don’t want them to learn about it from someone else, especially, from someone who doesn’t share the same values that you do. You want to teach your children to save themselves for marriage so that they don’t fall into the trap that sex is for pleasure outside of marriage. Children often feel that they need to have sex with someone in order to have a relationship with the opposite sex because that is what the media is teaching our children.
Provide Your Child With A Way Out of An Uncomfortable Situation
Always provide your child with a way out if they find themselves in a situation that makes them uncomfortable or they are put in a situation that they know is wrong. Let your child know that they can call you at anytime and that you will come get them with no questions asked. This gives your child the opportunity to do the right thing in an uncomfortable situation.
Do you approve of Miley Cyrus’s behavior?
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5 responses to “Miley Cyrus VMA Performance is Inappropriate For Prime Time Television When Children Are Likely Watching TV”
Ohg watched clips on Youtube after reading your article-definitely not suitable prime time viewing material!!
Christy, I value the time you take to add informative, helpful, and thoughtful information to your work and articles. I am disappointed when I see anyone commenting on blogs attempting to make an “I am right you are wrong” attempt and/or not sharing information or “also..” notes in a kind way. If there is something someone disagrees with or finds possibly not accurate there are thoughtful and kind ways to share such insights.
As you and I know know from our years of work on interactive media platforms the fact SO many parents are overwhelmed and confused by and with Social Media AND integrated media highlights the fact in today’s world it does not matter if ANY programming is “prime time” due to children and adults not needing access to “television” in order to see the type of inappropriate behavior many celebrities (and others including athletes)exhibit on a daily basis. Social Media platforms are being utilized as “second screens” for many and PRIMARY SOLE screens for others, including children not having access to “prime time” programming. The VMA performance was viewed by many on Social Media platforms making it another example how important it is for parents to be involved and engaged with what their children are watching or have access to from their phones, not only television.
I enjoy the helpful tips you include for parents in your articles. Keep up the excellent work. Your dedication to helping others is a gift for others. Cheers to you! XO, Steph~
I watched the VMA’s with my 14 year old. When this started happening, she rolled her eyes and stated, “well, ain’t her daddy proud.”
It is important to remember that although this aired during Prime Time Hours, this is NOT Prime Time Television. Prime Time Television is Television that is broadcasted into your home if your tv is plugged in. Prime Time Television is monitored by the FCC; MTV is NOT. MTV is a cable television channel that people PAY to bring into their homes. If they do not agree with what is aired on cable television, they have the right to not PAY to bring it into their homes.
(I only bring this up because some people do not understand the difference between what is covered by the FCC and what is not – and pretty much, any channel you pay to bring into your home is NOT covered by FCC regulations or complaint procedures)
Back to my daughter – we talked about Mileys performance a bit – and her opinion is that she (miley) is trying too hard to separate herself from Hannah Montana. Although it isn’t something that I promote to my children, I would rather they see it and I be there to discuss it with them, rather than they seeing it around school and thinking it is perfectly normal.
I agree that it was on MTV which most children shouldn’t watch but it is in most families cable television packages. It was shown on our local television and other shows that are on primetime television. While the orginal performance wasn’t on prime time, it was seen by all the kids that happened to see glance of the news.
I am glad that you were able to talk it over with your daughter. I had this same conversation with my 16 year old and she just shook her head and said “Yuck”.
I was worried that children, especially, teens and tweens would see this at school with their friends, on social media, ect. The underlying point of my post was to inform parents that it is important to monitor what your children are doing. This goes for monitoring their friends, social media, and the things that they participate in.
Thank you for sharing your insight. I hope that you enjoy the information on my blog.
I don’t approve of her behavior at all. I don’t know why people are so shocked though. We are a culture that glorifies sex and exploits sex for gain. The success of shows like Teen Mom and the Kartrashians illustrates this to a tee. This trick MC is looking for attention and it twerking her flat butt all the way to the bank, sadly enough.
I agree that we as parents need to take more responsibility for how our kids are raised. It all begins at home.