Will My Child Ever Give Up The Lovey?
A child who carries a lovey or security object around should never be teased. Parents don’t worry they won’t take their lovey to school with them. Once your child is old enough attempt to break their need to carry their lovey or security object around every where you go, you can often set boundaries so that your child can still have his lovey or security object at appropriate times. Doing this early on will make it easier on your child with it is time to let go of their security object.
- Give your child appropriate set limits of when and where the lovey can and can’t go.
- Ask your child to help you find an safe spot for his or her lovey, so that you can have your child put it in its safe spot when it is time to leave the house or while your child is actively playing.
- Schedule a “bath session” (time to wash it) for your child’s lovey so that it can be cleaned regularly.
- If your child is deeply attached to his or her lovey, you may want to buy a second one so that if the other is in the wash or if you lose it your child won’t have a major meltdown.
- Engage your child in activities and play time so that he or she forgets about the lovey.
- Do give your child plenty of hugs and kisses so that your child doesn’t think that their lovey is their only source for comfort.
What was your child’s favorite security object?
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I thought it was odd that my kids never got attached to a lovey. It seems like so many kids do, and it really can be a comfort to them, but I guess it was nice not to have to try to take it away later. I can imagine how difficult that would be! This was a great article for parents whose kiddos are attached to loveys. Thanks for sharing!
My oldest got attached to her thumb, I thought I would never get her to stop sucking her thumb. She was probably 8 or 9 before she finally stopped.
My son has an Ernie plushie that he loves so much. It’s become so dingy and stinky (he refuses to have it cleaned, my goodness!) that I wanted to get rid of it so bad! I hid it somewhere in the house a few months ago, and surprisingly my son didn’t go ballistic when he realized that his Ernie is gone.
I am thankful that my son isn’t overly attached to Tigger. He loved taking him to daycare there for a few weeks and of course he got pretty dirty.
Awww… my son can’t sleep without his “special blankie.” He doesn’t really have a toy or lovey he carries around but he does have to bring his cars with him wherever we go. Perhaps that’s his security toy?
Yes, his cars are probably have some type of emotional security object and he has something to keep him occupied on his outings.
We have a Bunny and a Bear from Angel Dear that go everywhere with my daughter and son! I don’t think we could live without them!
Thank you for sharing your child’s favorite lovey. I know that my son loves his and is pretty attached.
We had to chase down BeeBee(stuffed animal) lost at SeaWorld one day, because we would have never made it home without that thing with us!;) Then, there was Minky to keep track of as well at all times! Those times are actually funny to look back on now.
I am glad that you can laugh at the situation now Courtney. We left Tigger at daycare today thankfully my son isn’t too worried about him.