I remember the morning that I took the pregnancy test on September 26, 2010, just a few days after my husband’s birthday. The pregnancy test turned positive right away. We had been trying for a long time to have a baby and we were finally blessed with the news that we were expecting. At the time, the timing didn’t seem perfect but things always have a way of working out. My husband was so excited and he assured me not to worry about a thing.
Disclosure: This post reflects my own opinions based upon my recent experience. My opinions may differ from yours.
As soon as we found out that we were expecting, I called and scheduled an appointment to confirm the pregnancy. My husband went with me to the OB/GYN, since it was the first time using this clinic and I didn’t know what to expect. I didn’t want him to miss anything exciting. Of course, the first appointment wasn’t very exciting, the doctor just did the typical pregnancy lab work ups to confirm that I was in fact pregnant.
About two weeks later, we went back to the doctor together for our first sonogram. Seeing our tiny, growing baby on the ultrasound screen was an amazing feeling. According to the sonogram, I was 10 weeks along and the baby was growing beautifully. I remember my husband grinning ear to ear with excitement and he couldn’t wait to share the news with everyone that we were expecting. We wanted to wait until we heard the heartbeat to share the news that we were expecting with everyone.
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8 responses to “Keeping Dad Involved During Pregnancy – My Experience”
One of the best things during my pregnancies was having my husband feel the baby moving. He wasn’t one for going to appointments unless it was for an ultrasound and baby shopping was TOTALLY out of the question lol But no matter how much or how little he was involved with the pregnancy, when we had our children (both c-sections) and he was able to walk up to that baby warmer, its like his whole world changed. Probably the best feeling in the world, and the scariest all at once!
I loved feeling the baby move, it is the greatest feeling in the world. I miss it. 🙁
During my first pregnancy, my husband came to every appointment, and even asked my OB questions. And he was with me almost every step of the way during my c-section. With my 2nd, it was harder for him to make it to every appt, but he did what he could. He would also talk to the babies while I was pregnant, which was really cute.
I think the first baby always tends to get more attention but that doesn’t mean that dad is any less involved or doesn’t love subsequent babies. Thank you for sharing your experience Gina.
Your story is so interesting that I have completely dived into it and forgotten about everything. It is very important and useful as well. Of course, your experience differs from other women, but basics are the same for all of them, and they will benefit.Thank you for sharing, Christy!
Thank you Olga.
Sounds very much like mine! You’re right, it’s so important to have the husband involved, but I think it’s different for all men… the feelings that is. My husband didn’t really get excited until after the baby was born. He said he didn’t really have all the feelings yet like I did.
Lexie, I am glad that your husband came around after the baby was born. Some men are afraid they are going to hurt their newborn, but they aren’t nearly as fragile as they appear to be.