Depressed and wanting to get out of an abusive relationship

Prepare Yourself Mentally and Emotionally Before Trying Get Out of an Abusive Relationship

Depressed and wanting to get out of an abusive relationshipAre you a victim of domestic violence or stuck in an abusive relationship?  Abuse comes in many including: physical, emotional, verbal, economic, mental, and sexual abuse.  Remember that abuse can happen to anyone.  Often times there are red flags early on in the relationship and most people tend to ignore them.  When someone is trapped in an abusive relationship, most victims won’t open up and talk about their problems with others.  Most victims will often hide the abuse, claim that it was an accident, or make excuses.  When in an abusive situation, most people think that their abuser is going to change, that their situation is going to improve, or the abuser is going to get the help they need.  However, most abusers are stuck in a constant pattern of abusive behaviors and the victims are often continually abused.

Disclosure:  All opinions in this post are 100% my own and may differ from you own opinions.  I am am not a professional.  If you are stuck in an abusive relationship, please seek the help from a licensed professional and seek legal advice. 

Find a Support System Before You Decide to Get Out of An Abusive Relationship

If you are caught in this type of relationship, I want you to know that you aren’t alone and there are agencies that are willing to help you and your family out of an abusive relationship.  Many victimes want to getting help but they are often talked out of it by the abusers.  They often make lofty promises to change and to seek help for their unwanted behavior.  If you don’t live with your abuser, I highly recommend that you find support system before you decided to get out of an abusive relationship.  You want people to be there and  to support you and help you while you are trying to get out of a difficult relationship.  Once you start the process, you want to follow trough with your decision.  A great support system will be there to gently remind you when things get tough, offer you support when you need it, give you someone to talk to, and someone to provide loving advice.  A support system can be a trusted family member, friend, or even a counselor.

Continue Reading: Ways to Prepare Yourself Mentally and Emotionally Before Attempting to Get Out Of an Abusive Relationship


24 responses to “Prepare Yourself Mentally and Emotionally Before Trying Get Out of an Abusive Relationship”

  1. Harleena Singh Avatar

    Hi Christy,

    Well written detailed post indeed 🙂

    I wonder if you remember a post I’d also written on abusive relationships a few months back and that for sure was an eye opener for me because of the support system and lots of online help available out there. But I agree, before you really go ahead with it, you need to prepare yourself, which is not easy for the abused because when they suffer and undergo all that they do, they just aren’t in the state to think right I feel. Nevertheless, they have to take control of themselves and follow the right way as you mentioned here.

    Thanks for sharing. Have a nice week ahead 🙂

    1. Christy Avatar

      Thank you for sharing Harleena. I am not sure that I read your post but a having a support system is critical. You are right an abused person often feels as if they deserve what they are getting or they aren’t thinking as clearly as they should be. A good friend or support system can help them see things for what they are and encourage them to get the help that they need to regain control of their lives.


  2. Pepper Tan Avatar

    Getting out of an abusive relationship is never easy. I have a friend who’s going through something like that now. I will forward this post to her. Thanks. Really…

    1. Christy Avatar

      I hope that your friend finds this post useful. 🙂 Thank you for stopping by Pepper.

  3. Dominique Goh Avatar

    It’s important to get out of abusive relationship..great tips that you have here.

    1. Christy Avatar

      Thank you Dominique.

  4. Roz K. Walker Avatar

    Very good tips you’ve listed for anyone going through an abusive relationship. I have had to help a friend escape an abusive relationship and with I’d had these tips at the time. It was a scary time, but it all worked out in the end.

    1. Christy Avatar

      Thank you Roz. It is tough watching a friend live through an abusive relationship.

  5. Taylor Avatar

    Oh my goodness! So many women could be helped by reading this article. I have to share it.

    1. Christy Avatar

      Thank you for sharing this post Taylor. 🙂

  6. Carla J Gardiner Avatar

    This is a very enlightening post about abusive relationships, Christy. Although I’ve never been in such a relationship, I know women who have. Thank you for posting a sometimes touchy subject, people need to know there are resources available to them and there is hope.

    1. Christy Avatar

      Yes, most women who are trapped in a horrible relationship don’t realize that they aren’t alone. Thank you for sharing Carla.

  7. Lexie Lane Avatar

    Abusive relationships are definitely difficult to get out of, especially when you’re conflicted with feelings. These are such great tips.

  8. Lexie Lane Avatar

    Pressed enter by accident. The manipulation part is the most difficult thing to deal with for sure and sometimes fear that goes along with it.

    1. Christy Avatar

      Yes this was the hardest part that I had to deal with when I went through my divorce. Looking back I wish that I would have sought grief counseling but at the time I felt like I could handle it on my own.

  9. Roslyn Avatar

    Great information. Probably more important for those NOT in abusive relationships to be aware of the steps to be able to help a friend or family member. The person in the abusive relationship is dealing with shame & survival & needs someone strong to guide them.

    1. Christy Avatar

      Yes, I agree Roslyn. I wish that I would have listened to my gut instincts when it came to marrying my ex. I felt that I had to marry him because I was pregnant. Live and learn.

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  11. Delia @ Blog Formatting Avatar

    Great post, Christy, you pointed some important steps for people who are going through this.
    Thanks for bringing awareness and for sharing these resources.

    1. Christy Avatar

      You welcome Delia, thank you for stopping by.

  12. Sicorra Avatar

    Those are all very important tips! I think in many cases people are in such a hurry to get out of a terrible relationship and they make the jump without any preparation which often times makes their life even worse. My first husband was verbally abusive and very difficult and I spent 3 years planning my divorce before he even knew about it. I sought out counseling, I was secure in my job, and I dealt with my emotions before I told him we were through.

    1. Christy Avatar

      Thank you for sharing your story Sicorra. I hope that other’s see this comment and are inspired to make plans before they decide to leave a relationship. 😉

  13. Steph Avatar

    Christy, thank you for the dedication you put into your work to help others~ This is another EXCELLENT testimony to how God is using your intellect and skills to make a DAILY difference with your articles~ I value the time you invest in the R&D you complete to publish accurate and helpful information for people to follow. You are a DAILY blessing~ XO, S~

  14. Lorri Abela Avatar

    Informative post!Having a support system is essential for everyone. Whom do you appreciate the most as your support system in life?