Finding out that you are expecting is the most exciting news that a mother to be will ever get, aside from getting married. After getting a positive pregnancy test, most women call the doctors office immediately to get prenatal care so that they can determine how far along that they are. Once you have a confirmed pregnancy at your OB/GYN, some doctors will do an ultrasound the same day while some doctors have you come back for another visit . The ultrasound is used for dating purposes and to determine if your pregnancy is viable, and the doctor can also determine how far along you are according to the baby’s measurements.
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Some mom’s get to hear exciting news about their new baby and then there are some mom’s who leave the doctors office devastated or in tears. If you leave the doctor’s office devastated or in tears, chances are the ultrasound tech found something abnormal on your sonogram and has the doctor immediately come in to take a look. You doctor should carefully explain to you everything that he or she sees is wrong with the baby. Sometimes your doctor will even have you come back to the office for a second ultrasound in a few weeks, if they don’t happen to see the baby’s heart beat just to make sure that your dates aren’t off for some reason.
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I have personally never experienced this type of loss but know that I would have a really difficult time handling it. I just can’t imagine! I feel for women who have gone through this, in some cases, multiple times. Ridiculously hard.
Great post. xo
I personally haven’t experienced a loss either. I couldn’t imagine going through it.
These are excellent suggestions. I’m so glad you wrote about such a difficult topic. A friend of mine had a miscarriage and it was devastating to the couple. Their marriage has survived and they seem content with their two children. I hope more couples, relatives and friends read this so they understand how difficult this is and how much compassion, love and support the couple requires. Great post!
I can’t imagine the stress and toll that a loss could take on a marriage. Just like anything else, it could make or break your marriage depends on how the couple choose to react to the situation. I would think you would have to grieve together as a couple and individually.
I think sharing your story and finding others who understand and can be supportive is so important. I know both of these really helped a friend of mine who went through a miscarriage. Thank you for this post.
Your welcome.
I know some people who have experienced this, and it never quite seems to go away. The things listed here seem to be great advice. Keeping memorabilia, being patient with yourself, and getting your feelings out in a journal, I would imagine are sure ways to release the pain and find peace.
Rhonda thank you for sharing. I am sure it is difficult because most people are constantly reminded of their baby. Especially, on a due date, birthday, holidays. 🙂
THIS IS SOMETHING I’VE NEVER WENT THROUGH BUT HAVE HAD A FEW CLOSE FRIENDS WHO LOST AT MANY DIFFERENT STAGES–YOU BRING UP MANY GREAT POINTS.
Thank you Pam. There are so many different stages of grief and letting go. Plus each year that goes by a parent will always are reminded of their child on their birth day, due date, ect.
My aunt went through two miscarriages in the past, and it was a pretty difficult time not just for her, but for the entire family as well.
I am sorry to hear about her loss, not once but twice. Thank you for sharing Rebel.
My first pregnancy ended in a miscarriage. It was devastating for sure, and it took a long time for my husband and I to feel like it was okay to try again. In the back of mind I kept thinking there was something wrong with me, and I was terrified that it would happen all over again.
5 years later I found out I was pregnant again. The first trimester was terrifying, but we made it through. And now today, almost 3 years later, we have a beautiful little girl.
The worst part about a miscarriage, is not knowing what went wrong, and blaming yourself.
I’m a firm believer, and my faith is my lifeline, if it wasn’t for that, I’m not sure I would’ve had the courage to try again.
This is a wonderful post, thank you Christy.
Tasha, thank you for sharing your story. I hope that your story will help someone who is suffering from a loss and know that there is always HOPE. 🙂